Learning friendship in marriage

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There are ways to tell whether or not there is friendship in your marriage. Begin learning the keys to closeness.


Sure, you are your husband's wife, but are you his best friend? You should be. Sure, we need other friends outside the marriage, of the same sex. You need your girlfriends to talk about knitting and soap operas and yoga and the price of bananas, and he needs his buds to talk about the big game and the new engine and the time he almost punched that guy in the mouth for looking at his wife, but you should be his best friend, without a doubt. Best friends are always there. Best friends are there in the good AND in the bad, unlike other "friends".






There are ways to tell whether or not there is friendship in your marriage. Friendship is the foundation of a good marriage. Here are the keys to closeness.







-Researchers who study couples and what makes or breaks them, say the best marriages harmonize. It is the constant reassurance, silent and verbal, and other forms of communication such as body language, written etc., that says "I hear you, I accept you, I understand you." It is letting a partner know that they are loved and accepted DESPITE differences or problems.





-Letting loose once in a while, don't be wound so tight. Not everthing has to be such a big or heavy issue. Lighten up!





-Let him BE him. You have to be able to be real with each other, no preconceived expectations.





-Play, have fun, pig out on chips and beer while watching the football game together. No pressure.





-Listen, really listen, often we are too busy passing judgement, or thinking in our own minds what we are going to say in response or what advice we are going to give. Often they don't need or want your advice, they only want you to hear them, to listen!





-Don't criticize, total acceptance, remember? (Although as his best friend, there are times to subtly lead them into seeing something that may be harmful to them, out of love)





-Trust each other, without trust, there is no love and no relationship. Deceit and love cannot coexist.





-Tell each other everything open up,it will make you close.





-Be there for each other. You can always count on your best friend.





-Theres a saying: If you want a friend, you have to be a friend.





-A friend is a person you can let your hair down with, be yourself, allow them to be themselves. total acceptance, no pressure,





-Empathize, the gifted ability to put yourselves in each other's shoes and feel what each other is saying and feeling, is a gift, indeed. It will cause the unconditional acceptance, because you can now understand each other.





-Respect one another's thoughts, opinions, beliefs and the person in general. Without respect, there is a break down of love.





Best friends with your spouse. This is the ultimate relationship. To have love, life, happiness, contentment and friendship all in one.